Every relationship has ups and downs, whether it be family or friends or love or acquaintances. Issues are more likely to arise when a relationship goes for a long period. So if you are going resolve relationship issues, you should have a clear perspective of your own and you should recognize your own worth.
The ways to approach a relationship issue in recovery are so many. Here we are going to discuss some.
1. Don’t risk an impulsive conversation
Before jumping into whatever issue in hand, take some time to think about it. You should have a clear picture in your mind about your role in a relationship and yourself worth it. Before sitting down for a serious conversation consider the situation from afar deeply. An impulsive conversation makes you say worthless, meaningless and unimpressive things.
2. Prepare a proper Chat plan
Before going for an important conversation have a plan about what you are going to discuss. What are the points you want to put there? Phrase those points in your mind in suitable and effective words. Don’t be too harsh, don’t sound too begging. Before making a chat plan, have this idea in your mind whether your partner is aware of your points of discussion. Maybe you have formed some issues, but he/she is completely unaware of this thing. Think about these aspects too.
3. Inform the person in question beforehand
Rather than attacking the person in question of catching them abruptly, inform that you want to have a serious conversation. Ask whether they are willing to have such a conversation; whether they have time to do so? If the person in question is completely unprepared they will be defensive and will come with unsatisfactory answers. Maybe after conversation gets over they might think that they were not able to put their perspective properly. This may leave them fretting.
4. Choose a suitable day/time
Select a day or time which is suitable for both parties. If you have a lot of work on the day you have chosen for conversation, you might have stress or shortage of time. The same thing is applied to the other party too.
5. Don’t involve meaningless issues
Be sure that you have done enough homework and try to be directly on the point of issues. Talking roundabout or involving other issues which are worthless can make a conversation boring and less fruitful. Zeal and gel are important ingredients to make a conversation worthwhile.
6. Prepare to listen and accept your faults
Just like you have complaints, the other person may also have their complaints against you. Be prepared for the charges you never could have imagined for yourself. The allegations may be shooting and completely unknown to you. Sometimes you know what your shortcomings are. But if you are told about them you become infuriated. Nurture a habit to listen to such things.
7. Get ready to accept what comes next
You are an advocate to present your perspective but on which turn the decision would fall you may not guess. That the things would go according to your will, you cannot be sure of. You may have the benefits or you may lose too. Assess the situation, decide what will be the best for both of you, avoid ending up in a disastrous situation