To control the anger is pretty much tough task. Anger is like a dangerous weapon which not only harms the person who is violent and the person on whom the anger is poured on. Uncontrolled anger can ruin your health, your relationship, your mental balance, and whatnot. If you easily lose temper and repent afterward, you need to learn anger management skills.
Here are seven tips which might help you recover from anger quickly.
1.Take an Immediate Break
When you see things are going out of your control. The conversation has got heated on to an extent that nothing meaningful is coming out now. Or the situation which triggers your anger cannot be changed. Withdraw yourself from the present moment for a while. Take a break immediately. Leave that place. The break can last from 5 minutes to 5 days. Go somewhere where you can refresh your mood. Take a tour. Read something. Watch a movie. Or talk to a good friend.
When you feel that you have got in an uncontrollable situation that triggers your anger, the best thing you can do is to drink water. And don’t drink water in one gulp. Sip the water slowly. That will definitely help you to control your anger. This will calm you down. Water cools the mind.
3. Focus on Solutions
Anger cannot change the problem. Shouting, using abusing words, throwing items make a rift worse. An outburst is necessary sometimes to drain out the emotions but with a calm mind try to focus on the solution. How can you bring a change in your situation? What limitations have you drawn while talking to a person? What should be your future plan to see yourself in a better condition? Concentrate and you will find solutions.
4. Deep Breathe
When you start feeling angry, try deep breathing. Breathe deeply from your diaphragm. Fill your lungs with oxygen and exhale. Along with it slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as “relax” or “take it easy.” Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply until the anger subsides. Have positive self-talk, or stop thinking about the things that make you angry.
5. Stop Being Judgemental
No two persons can think alike. Opinion differs. Anger arises because of some set internal rules that define how others ought to behave. The world doesn’t go according to – ‘ my way of doing things.’ There are different ways in which other humans and the world operate. Stop being critical and judgemental for others. Do your part well and forget.
6. Practice Relaxation Skills
There are lots of tricks in yoga to calm you down in the state of anger. Like take deep breath, massage gently the back of your ear, hinges of jaws, neck when you get heated with anger. Regular yoga and meditation help you to control anger. The power and calmness of the brain begin to increase.
7. Listen Attentively
In the state of anger often we do misunderstand a person or a situation. Listen properly with full attention. Maybe what you have understood that is your version. Contemplate properly, and then react. If you listen patiently, half of the causes of anger get resolved.