So, I was talking to a friend of mine who was in the hospital. I went to meet him and asked how is he doing? And he said he’s doing fine, though he and I certainly know he is not fine.
Isn’t it what we all say when we are asked about how are we feeling? Isn’t it the usual response even when we are not okay? Isn’t it okay to not be okay? Why do we hide our feelings?
Okay. Too many questions, I know. But we must do something to normalize that it is absolutely okay to not be okay. But before that, we need to understand what does it means.
So, what I have understood from this phrase is that it is perfectly fine to not feel good when you are not doing well, whether physically, mentally or emotionally. And accepting these feelings, thoughts, or sensations is the first step towards giving yourself a chance not to feel okay. Acceptance doesn’t mean you let them be a part of your routine and always cry over them but be with them, till they pass on their own, giving them attention and acknowledging their presence. Do not try to suppress them or avoid or ignore them rather be present to those feelings, thoughts and sensations and let them come and go. Just keep in mind that nothing is permanent and change is the only constant. And the same principle applies to your thoughts, feelings and sensations. They are not going to stay forever. They’ll go on their own. You just need to give them their due attention and not feel overwhelmed in the process of suppressing them because that will make you feel unable to deal with them. As everything has time to come and go, so do these thoughts. You need to make sure that they do not overpower your routine and life and you don’t end up feeling miserable due to them. So, just keep on believing in yourself and follow your healthy routine. Let yourself experience these painful feelings to let them pass through you. If they break you let them do so. Sometimes falling apart is part of the process of building a new self, and finding yourself all over again.
Remember, you also deserve a break and has a right to do whatever you wanted to do in that period. It is okay not to be okay in certain situations where you are not feeling well or comfortable and you are allowed to leave them if you want. It is your life and nobody can blame you. Also, you don’t need to blame or feel bad about feeling bad. Just be comfortable and see what is good for you and what is not.