I am back again with a new, interesting and important topic. So, I was sitting with my elder sister and we were talking about my nephew and his friends. My sister shared about my nephew’s mischievousness and started comparing him with one of his classmates. She shared about that boy’s submissive personality and how “well-mannered” he is as he doesn’t talk much, and doesn’t waste time doing random things like his classmates I felt like inquiring more about that boy as I felt there’s something wrong with his behaviour, so I asked my nephew about him and he shared all those “gossip” about him and his parents who are divorced and that he lives with his grandparents. My nephew also shared more about his behaviour in the classroom which made me think that this child might be having low self-esteem. Though I’m not sure as I haven’t met him, this gave me a good idea to write about. Keep reading so if you ever find a child struggling with low self-esteem, you can help him.
Some Common Causes Of Behind Low Self-Esteem in Teenagers
- Unsupportive parents or caregivers
- Trauma or abuse
- Mental health-related issues such as anxiety or depression
- Medical issues
- Unrealistic expectations from elders
Some Common Signs of Low Self-Esteem in Teenagers
- Negative thoughts about one’s worth
- Low confidence in taking up new tasks or trying out new things due to fear of failure or embarrassment
- Feeling unwanted
- Use of negative statements like ‘I could not do that’, ‘I will fail’ etc.
- Excessive bragging to mask the low self-esteem
How to Help Them?
- Let them make mistakes. Do not be too harsh for making mistakes rather make them understand that mistakes should be viewed as learning opportunities.
- Do not expect them to be ‘Perfect’ in everything. Not everyone can excel in all areas. Be realistic with your expectations. Rather encourage them to try new things and make them understand that it is always good to try things before deciding whether one is good at it or not. This will boost their confidence and also help them overcome their fears.
- Encourage them to meet new people and if they feel good with them, they can become friends also.
- Make them learn how to set realistic goals and help them in dividing the goals into small achievable targets and on each achievement, complement them and celebrate with them.
- Be mindful of the child’s nonverbal behaviour and body language. Look at their posture and eyes, where do they look while talking? how do they stand or sit in front of others? etc.
- Teach them how to use positive self-talk to promote self-esteem.
These small changes and observations on your part can bring huge changes in a child’s life.